Depression Stay At Home Mom: The Guide To Conquer!
Beat The Stay At Home Mom Blues
I know you. You work so hard day in and day out to keep your family happy and healthy. You clean and cook and play and offer emotional support. But what about you? You matter.
It is easy to lose yourself in your new role as a mom. You don’t have time to eat, shower, enjoy hobbies...at least you think you don’t...
Stay At Home Mom Depression - The Struggle Is Real
I suggest starting at the beginning of this series.
Part Two In Series
I wanted to create this step by step guide on how to get out of the stay at home mom depression slump. You are an amazing woman, and you give 100% of yourself everyday. If your battery is constantly running on empty or your entire day revolves around everyone and everything but yourself, read this.
This is a mom that takes on every task and challenge at full throttle, does not stop to rest or eat or take care of herself. To the outside world she is remarkable, but she is tired, worn out and has lost her identity outside of being a mom. This kind of mom puts her all in to her role as a parent, but at what cost?
2. Momma Bear
Momma Bear refers to a mom that has probably experienced some sort of trauma during pregnancy or labour and delivery. Maybe a preexisting anxiety disorder was intensified by her new role as a mom. She thinks she needs to hang on to all aspects of her children’s lives with a steel grip. No one can take care of her children as good as she can and she worries constantly about their well being even in a safe setting.
3. The Postpartum Depression Mom
Again this probably started with trauma during pregnancy or the first year as a new mom. This mom never got the time to recover, and has been running on auto pilot ever since. The thought of being away from her kids for an hour terrifies her because outside of them, she wouldn’t know what to do with herself.
Can You Relate?
If you have experienced anything similar to the SuperMom, the Momma Bear or the Postpartum Depression Mom, it doesn’t have to be this way. You can be a mom and an individual at the same time!
How To Find "You" Again
Here is a list to build yourself back up to the person that enjoys life and knows how to exist outside of her role as a mom.
1. Take the depression and anxiety test linked here.
If you score high, continue to follow the steps listed in my Depression Help article. Do not skip this step. After you have completed those steps, come back to this guide. If you did not score high, keep reading.
2. Get your house organized
I know this is a big task. I want you to put other outside commitments aside for now and spend nap time or the evening tidying and organizing your surroundings. I want you to watch this video here:
Declutter and get your house feeling fresher. Take your time and remember to eat and stay hydrated.
3. Find Reliable Child Care
If you do not already have a daycare or babysitter that your child can visit, set this up now. If you feel you cannot afford this, try enlisting a friend or family member. We are talking about ONE day to start.
Look on Urbansitter.com, Google, a local Daycare, talk to other moms about who they use. Set this up, do a tour with your child and put a date on the calendar. ONE day. If you identified with any of the 3 Mom terms you saw above, remember that the fear and panic at the thought of your child being at daycare is the 'Mom term' talking.